Okay ladies and gentlemen, I need your help,

As I am sure some of you already know, starting next fall we will be homeschooling. Alex will be starting kindergarten and we decided that what was the best course of action for him was to keep him home with me. I am actually very excited about doing this. Which shows what a long way God has brought me since this time last year. Last year I was terrified and trying to ignore what God was telling me. However how I got from there to here is a story for another time. What I am focusing on today is the beginning of my preparations.

Part of getting ready to turn my dining room into a part time classroom was getting my own computer. A few months ago I switched from using a laptop of my own to sharing a desktop computer with the kids. I did this for several reasons, on of which was because I was spending entirely too much time, just playing on the computer instead of spending that time with my wonderful husband and kids. Let alone getting the household chores done. Those few months off have done me a world of good. I was starting to remember however why I was using the laptop in the first place rather than a desktop. I also knew that once we started school, Alex would be using the computer more and more since I plan to make the computer a part of our curriculum. I knew that I would be needing my own computer again. Well when Jason decided that he wanted to upgrade to a newer computer for himself I took the opportunity to get his old laptop.

Now that I had a computer again I really needed to start getting organized. This is where my problem comes in. I have some ideas, but really no clue as to how to implement them. This is where your help comes in. I am going to show you how the areas I want to work on are now, and explain what I want to do with them. Then I welcome any and all suggestion on how best to accomplish this with minimal expense and effort.

Area 1 – Mom’s Command Center

This is an area in our kitchen. As you can see I don’t use the area to cook or prep. it is in a spot in the kitchen that makes it hard for that. It has become a catch all for everything I don’t know what to do with. I would like to be able to use the counter top and the cabinets as my area. Kinda like my desk, only I can’t sit at it, because I keep my pots and pans in the lower cabinet. The upper cabinets though could be completely cleaned out and everything that is in there can be housed elsewhere in the house. So that leaves a blank slate for all my stuff. The counter top can also be completely cleaned off to make room for my laptop, and anything else I want to keep there, like my pencil and mail holder, which you can see  in the pictures below. I would also love to have something on the wall underneath the cabinet for putting up important papers, and notices, like calendars, etc..

Area 2: The kids desk and work space.

This is the kids desk, and mine at the moment. You can see my pile of stuff that will be moved to the other area in the kitchen. Next to the desk we will be getting a new shelving unit to house all our homeschooling supplies. I will probably put our quiet time toys in that shelving unit as well. (the legos you see in the above pictures along with some things we have in the playroom) We love the Besta shelving units from Ikea. We have several that we use in our living room for our entertainment center (you can see them a little bit in the first picture of the kids space, they are dark brown.)  They hold a ton and you can completely customize them for your individual needs.

That is what I’ve got. Any suggestions would be great.

In typical fashion last week went flying by. It really got away from me, and what a week it has been. First things first, my GAG weigh in. I used my first free pass this week. It was not a great week, I was stressed and very down. I tend to forget what I am doing when I am feeling like that and snack a lot. It was better than it could have been since I don’t keep high calorie snacks in the house. I was also PMSing this week, so that didn’t help at all. In the end when I finally did get on the scale, I hadn’t lost weight, but I hadn’t gained any either, which is a good thing.

You are probably now asking, why was last week a rough week? It is the same answer it usually is, school. I am so glad that we have chosen to home school starting next year. In the meantime though we have to get through this year. If you didn’t already know, Alex is a very active little boy. He does have some trouble sitting still and sharing with other kids, nothing that really has me concerned though. School is a different matter. He is in the oldest class in his preschool this year, the 4 year old class. Well I thought that he was doing okay. At least that is what the teachers told me after his first week. Well last week, his second week, I found out that he wasn’t really doing all that well. He wasn’t sitting when he was supposed to and was having a lot of trouble getting along with the other kids. This of course has me stressed out because I know what a sweet, happy, well behaved little boy he can be, and is when he is not in school. All his problems center around school. I know he is not perfect and yes he does have problems at home, but nothing more than any other 4 year old with a younger, sometimes annoying little sister. I was at a loss as what to do with him, since nothing my husband and I were saying to him seemed to be registering.We talked about his behavior all weekend, we took away his dinner out on Friday because of his behavior, nothing seemed to work. Monday he went to school and had an even worse day, and I was completely strung out and frustrated. I hate to sound like the parent who is saying that their child can do no wrong, and is perfect all the time. However, that being said, I do think the school needs to take some ownership here. I believe that a big part of the problem is that he is bored at school. He is way above about half of the class, if not more. Last year when they tested him at the end of the year, he was in the top five in a group of 24. That is both classes in the school that are his age. At home we are working on reading and counting to 70, while at school they are still just introducing the letter and numbers to 10. This is stuff he has been doing for years.

I spent all day yesterday and all last night praying about the situation. I am fully prepared to take him out of school and start homeschooling right away. He is more than capable of handling the kindergarten material. This morning I decided that rather than do my usual prayer about school in the car after I drop them off, I would pray with the kids after we parked the car and before we went in to school. Well guess what, both kids had a much better day today. (Lizzie, who is very strong willed, has been raging an all out war on the teachers, in an attempt to show them who is the boss. In her opinion it should be her) Alex was crying when I picked him up, but that was because he had to use the bathroom and somebody was already in there. I am going to continue praying everyday, I really want both the kids to have a great year. Plus the selfish side of me is enjoying going grocery shopping without the kids, and I love having 2 1/2 hours on Friday to do whatever it is I want to do, no kids attached.

Thanks for listening to me vent.

On a side note, please pray for a little girl from our church. I can’t go into details, but she needs all the prayer she can get.

God Bless

Heather.

God Wants Me to be Kind

Bible Verse: Acts 3:6

Monday: Errand Day – Doing one kind thing for somebody else at each store we go to.
Ask Alex what he thinks would be a kind thing to do for other people while we are out.  (Example: holding the door for others)
Tuesday: Bible Story: Acts 3: 1-10
Read the story and discuss: Why did the man ask for money? What did Peter do for the man?
Story Visual: Show what it would be like to not be able to walk. Sit in a circle, offer a treat, but explain that they cannot use their legs to reach the treat. How did this make you feel, happy or sad?
Coloring Page: based on story.
Wednesday: Library: Finding books about being kind. Learning how to ask Liberian for help nicely, and learning how to find books.
Thursday: Craft Day: Be Kind Flower
Friday: Lunch out and Sports Class: Continue to practice being kind to others.

You would think that I know the answer to this question. After all I am a trained special education teacher. That is what I spent four years in school for, so that I could recognize and teach a child with a learning disability. So why is it then that I can’t come to a decision about my own child. I spend 24 hours a day with him, minus the 5 hours a week he is in school. But yet I still am up in the air about getting him evaluated for ADHD. There are a lot of reasons for this.

Number one reason is the fact that we have not made a decision about homeschooling yet. If he is going to be home with me instead of in a traditional school setting then what is the point of getting him evaluated. I know how to handle him, how to work with him without a diagnosis. I worry that getting a diagnosis will just be a label that will follow him the rest of his life. If he is home with me I can work with him in a way that suites his needs and learning style, ADHD or not. I don’t need a diagnosis to teach him.

Another reason is the medication issue. I am very reluctant to put him on medication. He is already on so much for his allergies and he has such a sensitive stomach to begin with. I don’t want to add yet another chemical to his poor little body. In fact we are in the process of trying to get rid of as many chemicals in the house as we can. Why would I pourposly add more. I know we don’t have to put him on medication if we don’t want to, but the schools most often push for it, and I don’t want him to be thought of as the bad child in the class, just because I don’t want him on medication. My fear is that he will get a teacher who can’t see past the words unmedicated and ADHD. If I decide to keep him out of school to avoid this situation then we are right back at point number 1.

As Alex get older I have been noticing that he is showing less and less ADHD tendencies. He is still a very active little boy who rarely sits still for a minute. But that does not mean he has ADHD. The impulsive behavior  has drastically reduced. He still touches a lot of things without thinking before he does it, which often gets him in trouble. But he doesn’t have the more severe impulse control problems. He doesn’t run into the street, he doesn’t hit, and he doesn’t often act first, think later. He does have some temper control problems still, but again he is an active little boy. I also feel that he doesn’t have a large attention problem. When he wants to he can spend hours focusing on one thing. He does still have a tendency to jump from one activity to another during free time, but that is getting less and less as he gets older. I am really starting to feel like he is growing out of many of the ADHD behaviors, and what I really have is an active boy. And is there really anything wrong with that. I don’t think so.

So what is the problem you say. School is the problem. Every Tuesday and Thursday I worry about the report that I get from his teachers. It seems like every day is something else. The biggest one is that he has trouble sharing and trouble getting over problems. I am really starting to wonder if this is more a problem with the teachers than with him. He has the same issues here at home and with friends, but for the most part I have been able to work through those with him. In fact the last play-date we were on, I don’t really remember having a problem with him at all. Other than trying to drag him out of there. So once again that brings us back to the homeschooling.  Is he just one of those kids who does better at home? Am I capable of providing the right learning environment for him? Will we want to strangle each other at the end of each day? At the moment I don’t have answers to any of these questions.

As of today we are still planning on sending him to his last year of preschool, and Lizzie will be starting the 2 year old program in the fall as well. I think we will have to see what the next year brings.